An Unexpected Lesson

Lessons come in many shapes and sizes.  Lessons come from young and old alike.  For many it comes in unexpected ways.

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I realized this morning, that I have learned a lesson over the past couple of years from my President.  Yes, that’s right!  My President!

He has taught me how to stand against bullying.  He has taught me how to stand against lies – and deceit – and hatred.  He keeps moving forward working on the promises that he made while campaigning for presidency.

I see people everyday struggling with life in general.  And many of them are lying flat out on the ground and are unable to get up!  Defeated.  Heartbroken.

But each and everyday for the past two years, President Trump gets up and continues on – doing what he promised he would do.

That to me is worth something.

Be on the look out each and every day for little lessons – little nuggets that encourage you to continue on your journey.  Strive to find the good in people.  Strive to help another to believe that they can get up – clean their face – and move forward.

Thank you Mr. President.


Learning to share is one of the first goals in life.  Little ones do not like to share.  And it takes some great techniques to encourage them to share things with others.

That is why I find it so amazing that in our government, so many leaders have forgotten how to share.


As kids get a little older, one thing they like to do at lunch time is to see what everyone else brought for lunch.  It is a common sight at lunch to share with others what you have brought for lunch.  I have seen kiddos bargaining at the lunch table with others.

I thought of an example just with fruit.  Between several different children, an average day would see some grapes, oranges, bananas, and apples.  It would not be uncommon to see the bargaining start with I will give you five grapes for one-half of your orange.

It always works out well when each one is willing to share equally.

But every once in awhile, where you have a child or two who are more interested in their own desires than that of others, the bargaining doesn’t go so well.  And sometimes you will see the bargaining almost become bullying.  Yes,  that is what I said.  Bullying.

This is what we are seeing within our government leaders right now.  Those that only want their way and they are going to get it at the cost of all others. I am thinking some of these leaders forgot their skills learned in preschool and kindergarten.

I know a lot of people who are tired of the bickering and complaining and deceit taking place in Washington DC all for politics and not for the welfare of citizens.

It would be most beneficial for Washington DC to host preschoolers to teach them how to share – to have a refresher course in kindness – in sharing.

I mean, even my dogs know how to share!

Even Dogs Know How to Share

Just saying.

Become as a Child

Have you ever been around four year old children?  Have you ever had the privilege of teaching them?

I Have!

There is something magical and glorious about that age.  They are like little sponges soaking up everything around them.  They believe in justice – in fairness.  And they believe in mercy.

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At this age, they are truly discovering who their are.  It is a time where a human being truly relates to one another.  Given the right teacher, these little sponges become great cheerleaders.  Yes!  Cheerleaders.  They start realizing that they are not all just a like – but unique.  Unique in their gifting.

It is definitely a great year of discovery!

Expectations.  As adults, we have expectations of children knowing how to be well behaved – well mannered.  If a child is acting up, we expect a parent to get that child under control.  Get them under control or get them out of the room!

I learned a lot from teaching four year old children.  A time forever treasured in my heart.

Today, we could learn a lot from a 4-year old.

I am thinking it might be beneficial for our leaders to take a refresher course of a 4-year old student.  They would learn a lot about how to treat one another.  They would learn how to say, “I am sorry,” amongst a lot of other cheerleading sayings.

Years ago, I spent time with my grandchildren sitting out under a tree – doing nothing but enjoying one another.  I can still hear those treasured words so long ago, “Grandma, can we do this again?”

Yep!  The simple things in life are true treasures!


Stranger Danger

I am willing to bet that there are many of you out there in a younger generation that learned those words:

Stranger Danger

I know that my children were taught those words.  They came from a military and police family.  At a very young age they knew the dangers that were out there.

Unexpected meeting, business competition.

Stranger danger wasn’t put out there to say that everyone out there would harm them.  It was meant to be a caution until we know.

Sadly, our country is split right now.  And the dividing line widens everyday.  It widens mainly from misinformation.

When we don’t protect our country, we are not being careful in protecting our citizens.  We must be aware of who is crossing our borders.  We can’t just bury our heads in the sand and pretend that it will be okay – that it will all work out.

Walls at our borders help slow down those who are crossing our borders illegally.  There will always be those who are good people – looking for a better life.  And yet there will always be those who come to harm our people.  AND BECAUSE of that reason, we must listen to our border agents and hear what they need to protect us.  They are out there doing it everyday – they know.

We don’t know what is needed because we are not there.  We only hear a lot of arguing going on – that becomes unreasonable.  Maybe if each one of us spent just one day shadowing one of the border agents, our hearts would change and say, “Give our border agents what they need!”

There are children who are traveling in these groups of illegal aliens who already know what a “stranger danger” person is.  They are being abused as they cross desert land.  They need to be able to come through the proper gate so that they can be protected.

I have lived a life-time already.  I have seen so many different changes in our country.  Some for good.  Some not so good.  But America has a good foundation.  Evil people want to destroy those solid foundations not for good – but for evil and selfish ways.

We must keep the foundations of our country.  And we must come together with sincere hearts to protect those foundations. We must be reasonable.  We must be of sound mind.

And more than anything, we must hear the hearts of our border patrol.


Blue Jays Caravan

As I sat enjoying my first cup of coffee this morning, I heard a little song bird come to the deck outside in beautiful song.  That is their way of letting me know that I need to put out some bird seed.

The first time that I heard one of their voices, I thought it must be a big bird outside.  But I soon discovered the hearty sound came from a song bird.  I have discovered that we have many types of birds in the woods behind our home.

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The song birds live around in the bushes and any place that they can find to stay warm in the winter months.  It amazes me how a being so small can survive through the Indiana winters at times.  But they do.  And I try to help by putting out food for them.

So I put out some seed and enjoyed the little birds coming into feed and singing songs of praise.

I walk away to get a second cup of coffee, and the next thing I know there is squawking and cawing going on.  I go to the back door, and see about eight blue jays that came into the community and had swooped down and eaten everything that I had just put out in 30 seconds or less.

I must say that I was a little upset!  How dare those big birds come and take from my little song birds!

Then I thought, what a great analogy!

Today, our country is divided on how to solve the problem of a large group that swooped down and are trying to come into our country illegally and take from those who have been here a long time.

The real problem?  Not working together to find a solution!

All the birds have to eat!  All the birds have to provide for their little ones!  How can I help the community problem?

I realized that I should have put some of the feed into the little bird feeder and put some out on the railing for the bigger birds.  The bigger birds could have eaten and the little ones would still have had some left.  (I just heard one of the song birds chirping in agreement!)

Hatred.  Hatred does a lot to the hearts of people.  Right now our hatred towards one another is bigger and stronger than trying to find a solution.  Sad but true.

I hope that our leaders will come together next week with less hatred in their hearts and more of a desire to find a solution for the problem.

Becoming the Real You

Children are to be encouraged to use their imaginations.  That is one of the ways that they discover who they are.

Unfortunately, somewhere along the line, others start telling them that they can’t “do that.”  You can’t be unique and fun and wholly you.

Society is doing that to our children.  Making them all look the same!  We were not meant to be exactly alike.

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There is corruptness all around us.  We walk around with sores all over our bodies from wounds in life.  For many, we are not even allowed to express ourselves without fear that cameras will start rolling and others telling us we can’t think like that.

But I am here to tell you that you can be yourself.  You can be unique and fun and wholly you.

For me, it has always been important that I stand for goodness.  That I encourage others to be all that they can be.  We help one another.  We care about one another.

Integrity is important to me.  That others can see the soundness of moral character in me.  To know that I am honesty.  Forthright.  Incorruptable.  Fair.

My integrity has cost me jobs because I refused to do what was not right.  My integrity has cost me friendships.

The older I get, I realize someone has to stand up and speak out these truths.  I am saying we don’t have to be “cookie-cutter” people.

I see in a younger generation that many want to serve others.  They just don’t know how to go about it.  Some of our leaders pretend that they care, so this younger generation flocks to them thinking they will find what they are looking for.

I am thinking this morning, that maybe some of those who have been newly elected as leaders in our county will discover that.  They want to do what is right.  They want to serve and help others.

My encouragement to them – “Wake-up!”  Don’t let the corrupt take away your dream.  Don’t let them take away your integrity!  Stand strong!  Just don’t get pulled down into the hatred and the corruption that surrounds you.

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Wait Your Turn

I have seen this video passed around on social media before.  I thought it was funny.

But when I saw it today, my first thought was, “We sure could learn some lessons from dogs!”


It is a good reminder of what is going on in our Country today.

People not willing to wait for their turn.

Can you imagine what a difference it would make in the atmosphere if we were all willing to wait our turn.

Yes, there have been times in history that most of us one time or another, have been skipped over when it was our turn.  But that didn’t make it right.

But what makes things right, is remembering some of the old ways of common sense and being kind to one another.

It takes one willing to step up and do what is right and then others will start following.

But we all have to be a part of it.

My Video:

Wait For It!

I Believe in You

Oh the messes that our colleges and  universities are making of our young adults.  They are dragging them down and telling them that they are not capable of handling “life!”

Basically saying, they are losers.

But I am saying that is not truth!  I am tired of watching a handful of people striving to destroy our youth and not allow them to become great and mighty in their destinies.

Believe Sand

I have seen moms and dads raising up their children to be strong.

I am also seeing these same kiddos being targeted for failure.

I am speaking from a grandma’s heart.

I have attached an article for you to consider today.  It doesn’t require bashing one another, but what it does require is that we stop and think!

The Blame Game

To all my grandchildren and to all the ones that I have adopted along the way:

You are so much more than this mess that surrounds you!  I believe in you!

You have grown up in difficult times.  No doubt!  But I also know that you are above the mess that surrounds you.

Take steps this year to hear other voices around you.  Voices that are encouraging you to be all that you can be.  No matter how insignificant it may feel.  Start in your own family.  Your own community.  And then surround yourself with cheerleaders willing to walk along side of you.

Believe this today:  There is a grandma out there who believes in me.  Now go find others.

Rewarded for DIS

We have just finished a year of “DIS!”

I don’t want to hold your phone and do your reasoning. 

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This blog is to help you do your own reasoning.  It is a great brain exercise.

Over the past couple of years, I was never quite able to put my finger on the problem at hand.  But this morning, it came to me!  As clear as a Spring morning after a dark and cold Winter.


There has been a whole lot of dissing going on!  Plain and simple!

To “Dis,” is to do the opposite of.  Take a look at a few words below:

Respect                                 Disrespect

Unity                                     Disunity

Agree                                    Disagree

Obedience                           Disobedience

Think about it!  People have been rewarded for dissing!

From a grandma’s heart, that can never work.  It keeps you from being your best.  It keeps you from a journey of delight – of discovery – of joy.  It keeps everyone down.

I see a society dissing its people.  Destroying them.  The name calling has become horrendous.

I have two words in my vocabulary that can work miracles at time.  Two simple words that can change your attitude – your destructive path.  Are you ready?


Yep!  Just stop it!

It is not intended to be cruel – or ugly.  But it is intended to protect you.  To protect your surroundings.

Those words need to be repeated to our Country’s leadership.  Stop it!  Stop dissing us!  Step up and do what is right!

Stop the dividing.  Stop the name calling.  Stop the ugliness.  Just “Stop it!”


This past Christmas Season, there were actually people trying to silence an old song; “Baby It’s Cold Outside!”  I won’t go into details – it’s not necessary.

So I decided to look up the word dissing and see if there are any dissing songs out there!  Boy was I blown away!  And I can tell you that I won’t waste my time to hear the words either.

What needs to happen this New Year!  Stop it!  Stop the dissing!  Then replace it with something of value.

I am not going to do your thinking for you – but I do encourage you to take time to look at what is happening around you.

Well, that’s it!  That’s all I have for today.


The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton


Welcome to my new blog coming in 2019!

So much wisdom gets lost along the way sometimes and it is hard to see your way to shore – to the light.

There is much confusion that surrounds many today.  Many are being attacked in the dark waters and don’t even know who your enemies are.

I invite you along a well-journeyed path of wisdom – Grandma’s Wisdom.

Hope to see you along the way.